So self-worth is how we feel about ourselves. It is linked to our ego. And recently where I work went through a restructure and my self-worth was put into question…
Have you ever found yourself relaxing, with some form of entertainment be it TV, a game or a book and you start to realise that you’re extremely bored? The activity you’re doing to relax and escape your dreary everyday life is completely and totally boring all of a sudden. That has happened to me on numerous occasions, I start to think to myself, why am I wasting my life doing this? A wave flows over me and I feel, not quite existential dread but rather existential boredom.
Inconsistency is the opposite of habit. Inconsistency is where you have too many variance or contradictions in what you are currently doing. An example talked to death is a diet plan. You do it for a little while, week, month, then oh my god, who would have thought that you would get back to your original weight after you stopped? Shock horror?! Being inconsistent with your days, your weeks, months and years is a great way of going nowhere. Rather than the contradiction about altering nothing, it’s when you keep changing what you are doing that you end up nowhere.
We have got to a time in our history that physical comforts, food and leisure are all accessible. We have more than enough to survive. The next obstacle to master and take control of is our minds. Since we have everything we need to survive, we have time to become bored. This is not how humans are supposed to live, we need problems, we need challenges, we need to consume, battle, create and explore. But when everything can be served to you on a silver platter, for a green piece of paper with a number and someone’s face on it, we no longer have those challenges we evolved for.
If we take a step back what is the purpose of the News? Down to its very core, what helps news make money? Since newspaper sales are on the decline, selling the news directly to the consumer is a dying form of income. So the way News keeps afloat is through advertisements. Keeping your attention, keeping you engaged with watching, reading, to effectively sell you more ads. That is the core job of the news. Remove your old ideals about informing its citizens and educating the masses on current events, that is what the news used to be. That’s a romantic’s way of looking at why the news exists, lets get real the news primary job is to sell ads now.
Have you ever experience existential dread? You know when you question if your life has any meaning, purpose or value? The answer it an Existentialist like myself is your life is insignificant. Knowing that you’re here because of share good luck, and a chain of events outside of your control is, to me at least true freedom. Let me explain.
I clicked on the video, sitting there watching listening trying to learn and get inspired when these words hit me like a tone of bricks. It’s something I never thought of, I’ve been working my whole life, saving, investing, trying to get close to retirement when Warren Buffets words sink in. “If you don’t find a way to make money while you sleep, you will work until you die.”
I’m running through the double doors at work, looking at my watch, thinking to myself as I sprit through the hallways “Not again, not this time” as I reach my destination, room 104. I stop, get my breath then swallow, the build-up of salver in my mouth, I reach for the cold silver door handle, turn it an step through. My stomach drops everyone is already there, waiting around a table. One disapproving face looking at me. I’m late for another meeting.
Everyone wants the hero story, everyone wants to be entertained by the extraordinary. The amazing, the talented. But in reality, the extraordinary is a lifetime of doing the same thing over and over again. The hero is a person who didn’t ask for glory but was forced onto it through pain and trials.
Ever thought about what makes you a good person? What makes you fare and judge. These four agreements do just that. Not in the eyes of others but to yourself. Only we can live our lives and live it true to ourselves. If someones say something is wrong, or not allowed, it’s not because it is true but because that goes against the rules they themselves asset upon themselves. So ask yourself that is it that makes you good?